When your kids were this small they used to tell you everything after coming back home. They used to tell you even if you didn’t ask. You had to listen even if you didn’t have time. Today you run behind them asking what they did the whole day. Does it not happen? Earlier they used to come behind us to tell us things today we run behind them. But they close their room doors and add passwords on their phones. They do not tell you even if you ask them. And if you pressurize them to answer, they may not say the truth. Where did the relationship change? They used to tell us everything but now they have stopped telling us. Why? Because when they were this small and shared things we would feel happy to listen to them. We used to accept every soul, please make this a habit of your life "Every soul needs acceptance". So, when they shared things while they were small, we used to feel happy and accept them as they were used to tell us something daily.

Once they grew up they came to you and suppose they told you "Mom you know what happened today, we bunked classes and we went for a movie." How did we react to that? Did we smile? No. That kid shared it using his habit of honesty, just as he did when he was younger. But that day from our side, instead of acceptance he got a rejection for the first time. After a few days, he said something else and again got a rejection from us. So, gradually he stopped telling us. We thought he stopped doing those things and hence not telling us anything. But he did not stop doing anything he only stopped telling us things. Is going to a movie by bunking school wrong? Is it wrong for them to try a cigarette if they are at a party? Is it wrong to come back late in the night from a party? Is it wrong to over-speed his car when driving? Yes, it is. But when everyone in the class is going and if someone does not go they make fun of him and then they separate him from their group and he wants to be a part of that group. Now is it right for him to feel tempted to go? But we did not say this to our kid that day. We had to say and we had to believe that you feeling like that like doing what everyone around you is doing your feeling like doing whatever is in the vibration around you, It is right from your side. If you had spoken like that, your kid would have come so much close to you. And then we could have told him, "But what you are thinking of doing" "It is not right for you." "You are right, but that thing is not right for you." Is there a difference between them? "You are right." "Your temptation is also right." "But, this thing is not right for you." Now you got their respect, they became closer to you and there is a higher chance that they will be influenced by what you say. But we said, "You are wrong, what are you doing? Is this what I taught you? What will people say?" Kids will distance themselves from you. Now they will start bunking classes and not even tell you.

In today's world if you want to protect your children then there is only one way and that should be they should be able to come and tell you everything that is happening in their life. And that everything may not be what you always will like. It will not be. But you want to take care of them and protect them? They have to come and tell you everything.

Be their friends first and then be their parents. 

So when you think about a family, a child, a close friend, or a romantic partner, the word "love" probably comes into the mind, and instantly other emotions rush in like joy, hope, excitement, trust, and security. And yes sometimes sadness and disappointments.

There might not be a word in the dictionary that more of us are connected to than love. Yet, given its central importance in our lives, isn't it interesting that we're never explicitly taught how to love? We build friendships, navigate early romantic relationships, get married and bring babies home from the hospital with the expectation that we'll figure it out. But the truth is, we often harm and disrespect the ones we love. It can be subtle things like guilting a friend into spending time with you or sneaking a peek at your partner's texts or shaming a child for their lack of effort at school. 100% of us will be on the receiving end of unhealthy relationship behaviors and 100% of us will do unhealthy things. It's part of being human. In its worst form, the harm we inflict on loved ones shows up as abuse and violence. And relationship abuse is something that one in three women and one in four men will experience in their lifetime.

Now, if you're like most people, when you hear those stats, you’ll go, "Oh, no, no, no, that would never happen to me." It's instinctual to move away from the words "abuse" and "violence," to think that they happen to someone else somewhere else. But the truth is, unhealthy relationships and abuse are all around us. We just call them different things and ignore the connection.

Abuse sneaks up on us disguised in an unhealthy love. 

Abusive relationships don't start abusive. They start being exciting and exhilarating. There's an intensity of affection and emotion, a rush. It feels really good. You feel so lucky like you've hit the jackpot. But in unhealthy love, these feelings shift over time from exciting to overwhelming and maybe a little bit suffocating. You feel it in your gut. Maybe it's when your new boyfriend or girlfriend says "I love you" faster than you were ready for or starts showing up everywhere, texting and calling a lot. Maybe they're impatient when you're slow to respond, even though they know you had other things going on that day. It's important to remember that it's not how a relationship starts that matters, it's how it evolves.

It's important in the early days of a new relationship to pay attention to how you're feeling. Are you comfortable with the pace of intimacy? Do you feel like you have space and room to breathe? It's also really important to start practicing using your voice to talk about your own needs. Are your requests respected?

If you ask me, isolation is one of the most frequently missed and misunderstood signs of unhealthy love. Why? Because every new relationship starts with this intense desire to spend time together, and it's easy to miss when something shifts.

Isolation creeps in when your new boyfriend or girlfriend starts pulling you away from your friends and family, your support system, and tethering you more tightly to them. They might say things like, "Why do you hang out with them? They're such losers", about your best friends, or, "They want us to break up, they're totally against us", about your family. Isolation is about sowing seeds of doubt about everyone from your pre-relationship life.

Healthy love includes independence, two people who love spending time together but who stay connected to the people and activities they cared about before. While at first, you might spend every waking minute together, over time maintaining independence is key. You do this by making plans with friends and sticking to them and encouraging your partner to do the same.

Unhealthy love is extreme jealousy. As the honeymoon period begins to fade, extreme jealousy can creep in. Your partner might become more demanding, needing to know where you are and who you're with all the time or they might start following you everywhere, online and off. Extreme jealousy also brings with it possessiveness, mistrust, and frequent accusations of flirting with other people or cheating, and refusal to listen to you when you tell them they have nothing to worry about and that you only love them.

Jealousy is a part of any human relationship, but extreme jealousy is different. There's a threatening, desperate and angry edge to it. Love shouldn't feel like this at all.

In unhealthy love, words are used as weapons. Conversations that used to be fun and lighthearted turn mean and embarrassing. Maybe your partner makes fun of you in a way that hurts, or maybe they tell stories and jokes for laughs at your expense. When you try to explain that your feelings have been hurt, they shut you down and accuse you of overreacting. "Why are you so sensitive? What's your problem? Give me a break." And you are silenced by these words.

It seems pretty obvious, but your partner should have your back. Their words should build you up, not break you down. They should keep your secrets and be loyal. They should make you feel more confident, not less.

The frequent break-ups and make-ups are the most facing stage in any relationship. As tension rises, so does the volatility.

Tearful, frustrated fights followed by emotional make-ups. The hateful and hurtful comments like, "You're worthless, I'm not even sure why I'm with you!" followed quickly by apologies and promises it will never happen again. By this point, you've been so conditioned to this relationship roller coaster that you may not realize how unhealthy and maybe even dangerous your relationship has become.

It can be really hard to see when unhealthy love turns towards abuse, but it's fair to say that the more of these above signs your relationship might have, the unhealthier and maybe dangerous your relationship could be. And if your instinct is to break up and leave, which is advice, and so many of us give our friends when they're in unhealthy relationships, that's not always the best advice.

Time of breakup can be a real trigger for violence. If you fear you might be headed towards abuse or in abuse, you need to consult with experts to get advice on how to leave safely. But it's not just about romantic relationships and it's not just about violence. Understanding the signs of unhealthy love can help you audit and understand nearly every relationship in your life.

For the first time, you might understand why you're disappointed in a friendship or why every interaction with a certain family member leaves you discouraged and anxious. You might even begin to see how your intensity and jealousy are causing problems with the people in your surroundings.

Understanding is the first step to improving, and while you can't make every unhealthy relationship healthy, some you're going to have to leave behind. You can do your part every day to do relationships better.

Open communication, mutual respect, kindness, patience, giving space, and patience to listen, it’s all not rocket science to do. We can practice these things every day. And practice will make you better.

We've treated relationships as a soft topic when relationship skills are one of the most important and hard to build things in life.

Not only understanding unhealthy signs can help you avoid the rabbit hole that leads to unhealthy love, but also understanding and practicing the art of being healthy can improve nearly every aspect of your life.

I'm completely convinced that while love is an instinct and an emotion, the ability to love better is a skill we can all build and improve on overtime. 

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A man who just looks like a one-man army is much better than a man who took many bodyguards with him. 

The 40 years journey of Sidharth Shukla is idyllic. The way he brought himself up to be recognized by the public is priceless. 

He had done many shows and won them too. But Bigg Boss 13 (BB13) was his last show which he had done and won the trophy. 

The first time Sidharth Shukla and Shehnaaz Kaur Gill met each other in the BB13, and from the journey of knowing each other to become each other's best support they both won the hearts of many, not in India only but also internationally. 

The bond Sidharth Shukla and Shehnaaz Kaur Gill share is reminiscing, still today. The way Sidharth Shukla took care of Shehnaaz Kaur Gill in the house was the most catch-able moment of their journey in the BB13 house. He not only fulfilled his promises in the Bigg Boss house, but also after the show he took care of Shehnaaz and brought her up with his care, love, and possessiveness. He was the one who wasn't mean to Shehnaaz and genuinely was so loyal to her.

As Sidharth Shukla's fan, we felt the pain in our heart by his death, so what Shehnaaz Kaur Gill is feeling for him is incredibly painful to describe in words. 

After the Bigg Boss 13 show, Shehnaaz Kaur Gill announced in her other show that she is in love with Sidharth Shukla. And before starting his love life, Sidharth Shukla chooses to let Shehnaaz build her career up, and in this all who knows that Sidharth will leave her so soon. 

The public gives them the name 'Sidnaaz' when they were ruling in the hearts of many while living in the Bigg Boss house. And they got so much fame, love from their die heart fans as 'Sidnaaz'.

Sidnaaz is not only the name which has been given by the fans to Sidharth Shukla and Shehnaaz Kaur Gill's love + friendship bond, but it's a emotion for many of us. An emotion of care, an emotion of friendship, an emotion of best friend's, an emotion of laughs, an emotion of fights, an emotion of possessions, an emotion of many arguments, an emotion of jealousy, an emotion of cries, an emotion of fulfilling the promises, and in most the emotion of love. "Sidnaaz, truly is an emotion ❤". 

I really wish the best to Shehnaaz Kaur Gill for her life and career. She needs more power to accept the reality and to face the world without Sidharth Shukla. May God bless her innocent soul. 

If you are having love for someone, liking them with all of your heart, and hiding your feelings just for the sake of society labels, so please don't do this, DON'T!

Life is really so unpredictable, and Love is so beautiful, leaving the world without explaining your love to that person is so painful. Just express what you have in your heart, no matter what it costs. 

I wish nobody's love story will be left incomplete while making the reminiscing history in many people's heart. The journey of Sidharth Shukla and Shehnaaz Kaur Gill is unforgettable and it left a mark of Sidnaaz's emotion in many hearts.