Where Does Parenting Go Wrong? Are Parents Creating A Communication Gap With Their Kids? What Is The Lacking Stage Of Parenting?

When your kids were this small they used to tell you everything after coming back home. They used to tell you even if you didn’t ask. You had to listen even if you didn’t have time. Today you run behind them asking what they did the whole day. Does it not happen? Earlier they used to come behind us to tell us things today we run behind them. But they close their room doors and add passwords on their phones. They do not tell you even if you ask them. And if you pressurize them to answer, they may not say the truth. Where did the relationship change? They used to tell us everything but now they have stopped telling us. Why? Because when they were this small and shared things we would feel happy to listen to them. We used to accept every soul, please make this a habit of your life "Every soul needs acceptance". So, when they shared things while they were small, we used to feel happy and accept them as they were used to tell us something daily.

Once they grew up they came to you and suppose they told you "Mom you know what happened today, we bunked classes and we went for a movie." How did we react to that? Did we smile? No. That kid shared it using his habit of honesty, just as he did when he was younger. But that day from our side, instead of acceptance he got a rejection for the first time. After a few days, he said something else and again got a rejection from us. So, gradually he stopped telling us. We thought he stopped doing those things and hence not telling us anything. But he did not stop doing anything he only stopped telling us things. Is going to a movie by bunking school wrong? Is it wrong for them to try a cigarette if they are at a party? Is it wrong to come back late in the night from a party? Is it wrong to over-speed his car when driving? Yes, it is. But when everyone in the class is going and if someone does not go they make fun of him and then they separate him from their group and he wants to be a part of that group. Now is it right for him to feel tempted to go? But we did not say this to our kid that day. We had to say and we had to believe that you feeling like that like doing what everyone around you is doing your feeling like doing whatever is in the vibration around you, It is right from your side. If you had spoken like that, your kid would have come so much close to you. And then we could have told him, "But what you are thinking of doing" "It is not right for you." "You are right, but that thing is not right for you." Is there a difference between them? "You are right." "Your temptation is also right." "But, this thing is not right for you." Now you got their respect, they became closer to you and there is a higher chance that they will be influenced by what you say. But we said, "You are wrong, what are you doing? Is this what I taught you? What will people say?" Kids will distance themselves from you. Now they will start bunking classes and not even tell you.

In today's world if you want to protect your children then there is only one way and that should be they should be able to come and tell you everything that is happening in their life. And that everything may not be what you always will like. It will not be. But you want to take care of them and protect them? They have to come and tell you everything.

Be their friends first and then be their parents.